The Chaos to Connection concepts are new and groundbreaking, but they are also proven and entirely doable. Many families, just like yours, have used the nine heart-centered essentials to move from chaos to connecting. Our parents are saying:

“Why didn’t anyone tell us about this years ago? We were told that setting consequences and punishing our child was the only way to get them to behave. If only we had known this earlier, we could have been with our child in a more loving way.” - David P.

“We were afraid that the damage had been done and that nothing could remedy all the hurt and pain caused over the years.” - Karen S.

“It is really scary, at first, to let go of conventional parenting, and yet the first time we were open and vulnerable with our daughter, it was beyond amazing. For the first time in years, we saw a door open to both of our hearts.” - Sarah M.

“This feels like a lot of work and yet it is the first work that feels so ‘right’ to our hearts.” - Janice T.

“Working on ourselves never felt like an option, since we thought we were supposed to help our child. Learning that our state of being affects them so deeply has been a real eye opener and has given us back the ‘power’ inside to shift our own situation." - Tom D.

“When my daughter was little, we had a wonderful, loving relationship. When she turned 16, all of a sudden our relationship became really intense and volatile, and she shut me out. I missed my daughter so much! But I was also scared by her behavior. When I became aware of my own emotions and guilt about the past and learned how to be a safe, unconditionally loving place for her, we began to grow closer and closer. Our relationship is becoming a sweet loving connection again.” - Hannah B.

“I used to feel like a victim of my son’s behavior without any choices or power when he missed curfew or came home drunk. He would come in the door late at night, and I would just crumple into tears. When I got the support I needed to really look at my own feelings and have loving support to talk, I started to feel stronger. I learned that I could choose how to react.” - Edward L.

“I really had no idea how much being aware of myself and taking care of myself mattered. I used to be a big ball of anger that just exploded whenever my daughter did her own acting out. Now I understand the importance of dealing with myself and calming myself so I can be a safe place for her. It has made such a difference in how she handles her own feelings.” - John S.

“When I engage in fun activities, with my teen, without examining what they are ‘doing’ to be more responsible or to lecture them, we connect in ways that I can offer guidance. When I am unconditionally loving and aware, my teen wants to ask questions and seeks guidance from me.” - Katie T.

“When my son was preparing to take a year off from school and take a trip to Europe on his own, I felt all kinds of fear and worry. I tried to engage him from this place of fear, but he just shut me out. I became even more worried and afraid, pushed him harder, and he seemed to take risks, just to show me he can. When I backed off and took responsibility for my own fear, I started to interact with him in curious and exited way instead of focusing on all the dangers, he engaged with me about my opinions about safety. It was amazing to see that it was not that he didn’t want my guidance but that how I share with him makes all the difference.” - James H.

“I became aware of how intense my presence has been in relation to my teen. Out of my fear, I’ve grown more and more strict and controlling and my presence has been anything but a loving one. Seeing that this alone creates a battlefield for me and my son has been so eye opening.” - Deb W.

“I used to have so much guilt about when we sent our daughter to a treatment program. I felt like I had betrayed my daughter and every argument with my daughter circled around that one event. When I forgave myself and realized I had done the best I could at that moment, I was able to be in the moment with my daughter and to better understand my daughter’s behavior and feelings so that we could connect.” Mike J.

“Our family has grown so much closer! We actually have fun talking about the future together and making plans for things to do as a family and individually. We used to be so afraid to talk about the future.” - Mary G.